Dinner dating guidelines
With the surge of mobile dating apps such as Tinder, Bumble and EliteSingles, getting a first date can be relatively simple, but for many singles, the hard part is following through to the actual nerve-wracking face-to-face event.
To find out how a host of dishy guys and girls experience the awkwardness of a culinary blind date, grab a glass of wine and some popcorn before tuning in to watch Dinner Date UK Season 8, which starts this Sunday, 10 June at 20:00 on BBC Lifestyle.
If you’re currently single the tips below, from Dinner Date UK success stories, should help you strengthen your dating game:
- Music – whether you and your date are driving together to a restaurant or enjoying a home cooked meal in the comfort of your home, making a music playlist for your date will not only set the scene but will also give your date an idea of your taste and interests. Remember that a first date is more about talking and getting to know someone, so pick songs that are pleasant, warm and that doesn’t distract from the conversation.
- Food for thought! Order or prepare a dish that is less likely to spill or splash on you. Opt for a steak rather than chicken on the bone or penne instead of spaghetti. Having to concentrate less on how you are eating and where the food will end up, will make for a more relaxed and enjoyable atmosphere.
- Hold back on the alcohol – if your date enjoys a drink, a nice glass of wine may be a great ice-breaker, but don’t whip out the shot glasses. You want your date to remember the experience and not wake up the next morning with a blurry recollection of you or the night’s events.
- Prepare for awkward silences with a list of casual questions or conversation topics lined up in case the conversation falters. Stick to general subjects such as music, food or travel and try and avoid serious topics such as salaries, past relationships or family dynamics. It is your first date, after all, so keep it light!
- Have a ‘just in case’ exit strategy in place and if the date isn’t going as well as you had hoped don’t be afraid to execute your strategy. Whether you decide to go with an almost honest “I have an early morning meeting”, the scare tactic, “Where is this going as my maternal clock is ticking” or the all-out white lie “I have a family/work emergency that I need to rush off to” strategy, try and go with something you feel completely comfortable with executing and won’t hurt your date’s feelings.
For couples who are further down the dating line and are already starting to plan their wedding day, spare a thought for the brave brides featured on Don’t tell the bride S12, whose grooms were in control of every aspect of their wedding ceremony. Watch as tensions rise and somewhat bizarre events unfold on BBC Lifestyle (DStv Channel 174) at 21:00 from 17 June.
For more information on current and upcoming shows on BBC Lifestyle (DStv channel 174) visit https://www.bbcsouthafrica.com/channels/lifestyle/ or follow @BBCLifestyleSA on Facebook and Instagram.
Get it JHB West – July 2018